The thought of anal play can be quite scary to people. When it comes to anal training, there is a lot of misinformation, taboo, and stereotypes that can confuse and cause a lot of fear.
...and what's the first thing your body (and butt) does when you're scared? It tightens up, which is no way to welcome a penetrative object. Being mentally relaxed, well educated, and consensually excited to dive into the deep end is an essential part of anal training and anal sex. Rather than aiming to start with penetrative anal sex (meaning penis/ dildo inside the butt), start off with a sexy anal massage.
Analingus (oral sex on the anus) is also a fun and exciting way to get started with anal training.
Before partners get involved, try practicing solo anal masturbation. Massage the outside of your anus and maybe even dip the tip of your finger in your own bum while you're alone in the shower.
Locate the two layers of the anal sphincter muscles (the outer one pushes things out, and the inner one sucks things in) and practice breathing and bearing down on your finger to help the first one relax. Feeling well-versed in your own body will increase your confidence when partnered up.
Your anus doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina and the butt's tissues tend to be less elastic. This makes using lubricant for all kinds of anal play essential. No lube means no fun.
Anal training is best done with several anal toys, graduating in size as you get more comfortable. Going from zero to the penis is a no-no. The anal sphincter is strong, yet delicate. It's best if you start small, with something like fingers, and then work your way towards something larger such as a butt plug.
"If you’re looking to explore butt plugs, this kit has everything you need to get started. Not only does it come with three different plugs so you can move up in size more comfortably, it also has a lube shooter to easily get it up there. The two larger plugs vibrate when you’re ready for a little more stimulation, and the set also includes a water enema bulb for cleaning up a bit inside your butt before using a plug (which isn’t necessary but helps some people feel more comfortable), and an extensive guidebook with tips on anal play safety and best practices." — Sex and Relationship Expert, Dr. Emily Morse
Before you begin, remember to go slow and use lots of lube. Lube is your best friend for anal play because unlike the vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating.
These anal training steps can happen over the course of a few hours, days, weeks, or more. When it comes to anal training, do what works and feels best for your body. A positive experience, in the beginning, enables positive and pleasurable experiences in the long run.
Congratulations! You’ve gone through the process of Anal Training. Now, you might wonder - what should I do next to take it to the next level?
But why is that? This is because the anus is surrounded by muscles. These muscles, as we learned earlier, are known as sphincters. The double-ringed sphincter muscle keeps things inside your body, rather than permits things to enter. This means that this strong muscle will return to tightening up after you have stopped continuous anal sex.
Take note- Anal training is not something you do once and from that point moving forward anything can officially go in your butt. Always listen to your body and gauge it from there.
Time - Make sure you are in the right mind space to engage in anal play and not in a hurry. If penetration is your goal, slip in a Snug Plug, Novice Plug, or even the Trio Plug earlier in the day. Prepping alone, prior to butt, will allow you to enjoy penetration more later.
Patience - It may take some time to get to where you want with your anal play again. Resist the urge to be too goal-oriented and make the experience more about experiencing pleasure.
Lube - Remember that lube is always extremely important in any type of anal play and is a huge part of making the experience pleasurable for both the giver and the receiver. Don't be shy or stingy - more lube is better than less.
No, they aren’t just for vaginas! Kegels build up the entire pelvic floor muscles. This can also strengthen the muscles around the anal sphincter. So if you’re planning on a lifetime of backdoor penetration, Kegel exercises can be especially beneficial to your long-term butt health.
Here are 5 simple tips on how to use kegel exercises for anal training:
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